I am a 30 year old woman that prefers to go by Domina Lily. Over the last 6 years I have been searching for a cuckold relationship. I have meet a lot of wonderful people and learned a ton of stuff. But going into 2011 I am single and no where near the life of my dreams. So I have decided to really truly put my heart and soul into making my dreams happen this year. In doing so I figured that maybe my journey could help others. And so A Cuckold Life began.
Things have been kinda crazy lately. I have been braking a lot of my own rules. But oddly I am relatively happy which is a giant step up. I have been dating a black gentlemen. (I call him this because he does not fit the mold of the BBC I fuck)
He is great and surprises me all the time with how happy spending time with him makes me. I just wish he had more time for me. He really does not fit into my cuckold dream life but he is ok with consensual non-monogamy. So I have been working with that and hoping to find a few more people to add to my happy little family for now.
I also have been seeing a cuckold. Or should I say a pain in the ass that claims he wants to be a cuckold. One day he will profess his love and desire to please me and the next not answer the phone. He sorely need to be taught a lesson. If you have any ideas please let me know.
last but not least. I am going on a little vacation this weekend. We are headed off to Orlando for the holiday weekend. Nothing special but will be nice to get away for a bit. An if all works out I will be starting a new job on Tuesday when I get home. Crazy enough I am excited about it, and having a steady income is always good.
Well not sure what else to say. Sorry it has been so long and I will work on getting you questions answered and posted. Thanks for your support.
Q. What are your thoughts on small penis humiliation?
A.To quote one of my cuckolds "It's not about the penis, is it? It's about the man attached to it."
I believe yes there are cuckolds that have small dicks, but I know many more that are normal sized. I have even meet one cuckold that
had an awesome 10".
But back to the point. I believe that "humiliation" is something most cuckolds crave to some extent. If not why would they let their partner have others? Although small penis humiliation is something very different. And there is a VERY wide range of it. You can have anything from a few comments about how you can not please her, to public displays or even CBT.
For me personally I take cues about the amount, and kind of humiliation from the cuckold. Almost all cucks like the name calling. I have one cuckold that is my Pussy boy, that is even his name saved on my phone. :)
Something that is a given with me is that all my friends and family would know about us. No I am not going to share every detail, but they all know if I date someone they are likely a cuckold.
Me and my mother are close and sense my parents became swingers we talk a lot about our sex lives. About 2 years ago my mother asked my why I was dating the guy I was with. I explained the cuckold lifestyle to her. Her reply was "so you do not have sex with him?" Then I had to explain that the guy was in chastity and that we would never have sex. She did not get it so finally I just showed her a picture of him locked up. To which she replied " I always wondered what was up with you 2." and then busted up laughing.
So in conclusion yes small penis humiliation can be lots of fun. I am game to try just about anything once.
Friday, February 25, 2011
I have been at a loss the last week or so for something to talk about. So I would love some help with questions and topics. Yes that means you. Help a girl out. Please! You can even submit comments anonymously.
Ok on with things. So today I was having a chat with a wannabe cuckold that has a really vivid imagination and he asked me several questions that were good but not really enough to stand all on there own. So I thought I would just post most of our chat for you all to read. Hope you enjoy.
Cuck: How hot is it for you to see your cuck humiliated by a black man? I would hope that it is a turn on.
Domina: yes if the cuck enjoys humiliation that would be hot to see.
Cuck: I want to be brought to tears regularly. I know, I'm not supposed to want. That's a problem... I have some desires.
Domina: I am someone that wants to know what my cucks like and want. I need to be in your head. I will always listened to my cucks, but you might not always get what you want or how you want it.
Cuck: So if I say that doing bi is a soft limit. Will you push me and force me bi?
Domina: Yes not like we are going to run out and make you suck dick that instant. But yes you will get pushed eventually.
Cuck: See I actually have no problem, but feel that the coercion adds to the erotic element. And the black man doesn’t have to know. Let him think I don't want to do it.
Domian: I get that
Cuck: Is that wrong?
Domina: No not at all. I understand it. I love the idea of a BBC thinking he is going to breed me. When truthfully I am not willing to have more kids now.
Cuck: How do you feel about having your cuck fucked up the ass? Is there a sexual line that you don't want crossed with your cuck? Or are you excited by the thought?
Domina: There are not many lines in my life. I would always hold the cucks hard limits. Anything else is game. However I would love that if the cuck is cool
Cuck: Cool!
Cuck: I like the idea of being fucked in the mouth and ass at the same time. Would you have to be there for any activities, or would you let them just take me for the evening?
Domina: I would never let anyone take my cuckolds. I do not even like being alone with black guys in most cases.
Cuck: oh, so it's a double edge sword kind of thing. You like the sex, but the relationship aspect isn't there.
Domina: That is the reason I love cuckolding. I get a sweet loving person I trust and also the crazy sex I crave.
Cuck: Believe me, if I was with you, I'd want you fucking other men, but if my sex drive was high enough to help you out 75% of the time would you want me to put it to use with you? Or is your preference to have my cock locked up and keep me frustrated while you fuck other men?
Domina: I would rather have you locked up
Cuck: Woo Woo!
Cuck: I have a hot wedding fantasy
Domina: which is?
Cuck: that includes me on my knees with a black dick in my mouth during our ceremony while we say our vows. Also I want to wear a dress on our wedding day. And you should have cum dripping from your pussy
Domina: Well I would have to say the first to I have yet to hear. Congratulations. Not often I hear something new
Cuck: and is it something you'd like?
Domina: Always saw my pussy dripping but not sure about the others.
Cuck: Part of the ceremony should be having my cock pierced. So I am in pain for the honeymoon which of course includes you getting lots of black fucking
Domina: I like that idea
Cuck: in real life I would do that, but in real life I don't want a permanent tattoo, but you can write using a magic marker on me
Domina: yeah a tattoo is a big step.
Cuck: do you have cuckolding tattoos? Like a queen of spades?
Domina: No I have no tattoos yet.
Cuck: But you plan on it? Do you have nipples/bellybutton or pussy piercing?
Domina: I do have several tattoos planed. An I did have my nipples and my tongue pierced at one point but not any more. I would love to have the hood of my clit pierced but sadly there is not enough there.
Cuck: very cool
Cuck: Will you regularly call me names like faggot and worse? Especially in front of the black men you're fucking.
Domina: Yes if it is what you like.
Cuck: I want you to enjoy demeaning me. See, the weird thing is that part of me see me as a slave and property and the other part as a regular guy.
Domina: That is not weird it is just you. I like to control cuckolds but I love submitting to BBC.
Cuck: Do you let them pee on you?
Domina: no
Cuck: do you like to pee on cucks?
Domina: Not something I have tried yet but I would be open to trying.
Cuck: Would you want to watch 4 black men use my mouth as a urinal?
Domina: Not exactly at the top of my turn on list but hey if you want it sure
Cuck: It has to be a turn on for you too
Domina: Well if something turns a cuck on enough it will turn me on.
I know this might seem a bit crazy to most people,but I have already crossed so many things of my crazy sex list that I hold the few things I have left very dear. There is something about the Fair that is a huge turn on to me. I think most of it has to do with all the people enjoying them selves. I just feed off of that.
When i was about 14 we moved to Florida and i went to my first state fair. At the time I was a super horny teen but also very shy. I remember sitting on a set of bleacher for about a hour just people watching. But the thing i remember the most was this dream sense then of me and some guy on the ferris wheel stuck at the top while i gave him a B/J.
Sadly I have still not made this fantasy come true yet. I saw a ad on TV this week that the fair is in town so i got to thinking about it all again. If anyone wants to help me out with this please let me know. I am also a huge fan of any kind of public sex and I am sure there are plenty of other places to play at the fair.
So I received a email this week. It was rather confusing and strange but I will answer the questions the best I can.
1 How do I introduce my husband forced chastity?
2 What training is needed?
3 Will we need a special medical visit?
First I think I must say every husband, boyfriend, sissy or cuckold is different. I also want to state that in both of my experiences with chastity the cuckolds wanted it, or was already using chastity. So most of my advice is from research.
I would say the first step in anything new in this lifestyle is TALK and talk some more. See what he thinks of the idea. What he likes and dislikes about it. An you should be taking notes on all of it too. Those things will be very useful latter as punishments and rewards. If this is something you are still sure you want to pursue I would say the next thing is to take control of when he can masturbate and cum. Both should be only on your command. Also you should be drawing things out longer each time. While all this is happening you should decided on the type of chastity device you want to use. There are tons and new ones coming out every day. Do your research. The only one I personally have any experience with is a CB6000. It worked well and cuckold was fine wearing for long lengths of time.
The next step could work one of two ways. Either you are going to just command your cuckold to wear the chastity. And in most cases you will have to have some punishment ready to use because he will rebel some.
The other way is to use your sexuality. You will proceed to tempt him and get him really sexually worked up. In that time when they are super horny, men are most vulnerable. Even if they know with common sense that what you are promising will never happen they still crave It. During this time they will agree to just about anything to get what it is they want. So use this time to get him to agree to chastity or get it on him right away.
P.S. a frozen bag of veggies works good to shrink that little thing so you can lock it up.
I personally would start out slow maybe with a few hours of wear time and work up. You do need to be aware that they will need to be adjusted and take some getting used to. This is a kind of punishment but it should not be something that is constantly painful.
As to the last question. A medial visit is up to you. However I do not see any male that would willingly tell a doctor that they are wearing chastity. 4-6 week is the longest you should go with out letting him have some release. However if you feel there is a issue then please do see a doctor. We are talking about a serious part of male anatomy.
Here are several other sites with info on male chastity
Also there is a cuckoldress that does videos on youtube that are great. Here is one she did on denial and chastity.
Last but certainly not least here is picture of a cuckold I locked
up and one of me wearing the key.
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
This is going to be rather off topic but it is 2 in the morning and I have been trying to sleep for at least 3 hours. I have something just going around and around in my head. About 3 years ago I had this idea for a website. I had several friends that were over the road truckers that were complaining about the lack of sexy, willing woman they meet. Well around that time a saw a movie that got me to thinking. The movie was called cougar club. And I have added the trailer at the bottom if you would like to see. Although very little of it applies. The fact that got to me was they created a club and a way for the males and females of said club to pick each other out.
And so my idea was born. I wanted to create a place where truckers and sluts like me that love them could connect. But with little to no money to invest in it I attempted to find ways of doing things for free. I created a kinda of dating site. It is not what I was hoping for and sadly I have little say over what is done there. But I have had a good amount of people join.
My hope is though that I could get the site I want built. Then I would love to find a nice freaky trucker to ride around with for a bit promoting the site and brand.
I had named the site truck stop social. An I keep seeing us stopping in truck stops and setting up a table and giving away stuff, but then inviting people back to our hotel room for a kind of trucker swinger party. An of course I would have to get lots of pictures so I could share all the fun. So if any of you any of you lovely cuckolds just happens to be a trucker. Or owns a motor home, and wants to drive me around the US promoting my idea let me know. I have so many crazy ideas just need to get them all working.
Just wanted to share some things I liked. I am not really one for Valentines Day. I think you should show your love all year long, not on 1 consumer driven day of the year. An sadly I am single this year. But I still wanted to share something with you all. Oh and P.S. just for anyone that is really keeping track. I think the idea of giving someone flowers that are going to die in a few days is really wrong. I would rather have something tangible so I can see it and continue to remember you were thinking of me
"Everyone should carefully observe which way his heart draws him, and then choose that way with all his strength." — Hasidic Proverb
"I think everybody longs to be loved and longs to know that he or she is lovable and, consequently, the greatest thing that we can do is to help somebody know that they are loved and capable of loving."
Fred Rogers
"The supply of love will never exceed the demand, but it should."
"Love is not ruled by reason" Moliere
“Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart” Marcus Aurelius
Q. I'm curious to hear what's been your most "successful" cuckold relationship and/or interaction to date?
A. This is a hard question. I have tons of cucks that I have talked to and even meet over the years. I have only had one relationship that we went into the relationship with cuckolding as the goal. I loved the guy very much and he did a wonderful job in making me happy. But sadly we never got to the sex part of our relationship. I do have several others that we just here and there kinda things that I have liked and I think those are what I will tell about.
When I first decided I was going to look for a cuckold years ago I started searching online. The first guy I came across was a very sweet gentleman that lives in TN. We still talk to this day. :) Any way we both wanted to meet after several months of talking. At the time I had a job where I flew all over the US so we planed at least 3-4 times to meet up. Sadly that never worked out. But in 2009 he messaged me he was coming into Tampa for some business. We meet up and went to dinner and spent some time in his hotel room getting to know each other. It was as if we had known each other forever. Later that night I had one of my bull come and join us. Things were a bit uncomfterble at first but then everyone settled into the roles. My cuckold watched and took pictures while I got a great fucking. After the bull went home I helped my cuckold with some CBT. It was a super fun weekend and I hope one day we can have more fun.
These are all pics the cuckold took that night.
I had another gentlemen come to me claming he wanted to be a cuckold. After talking it turned out that what he really wanted was for a woman to watch / force him to suck dick. Given my love of watching guys suck dick I figured what could be the harm. So we posted several ads on Craig’s list and had men come over. Most of the men were very take charge and would just pull their dicks out. but a few times I would have to force my friend to get started. Then I would sit back on the couch and watch or play with my self while the boys had fun.
Sadly most of my sexual fun has happened when I do not have a cuckold around. I sure hope to change that.
I have this wonderful cuck that I talk to all the time. He sent me a video today but I did not have a player that would work. Then sweetly he sent me a link to down load a new player. So I watched his video and was not impressed lol. But the great thing was the program he got me made it so I can view some videos that i thought I had lost. HOORAY!!!! So that means you guys can share in the fun. So here are 2 of them I thought you would like. They are several years old but still sexy, and of me.
Someone sent me a question asking how I got started in the cuckolding lifestyle. So here is my story.
When I was about 14 I watched a movie. All I remember is the woman goes out on a date with this guy and then has sex, but she then goes home to another guy that hugs her and asks how everything went. As a kid that was crazy to me but I still loved the idea that you could have both things.
As I grew older I dated but cheated on everyone I was with. I would always get board and want some new excitement. I was in one relationship for almost 5 years. In the end I just wanted out but he was very clingy, and nothing I did made him want to let me leave. So during a fight one day I told him that I had been cheating on him. Not just with strangers, but also with his friends. I was sure that would be the last straw and that he would kick me to the curb. He stormed out of the room and waited about 10 min. Then he put his head around the corner and asked if I was being for real. Dumbfounded I said yes and even told him who and how things had happened with them. He just kept getting more excited. Finally he said he was cool with it and that I could even continue if I like, but that he would like to watch. I said that was fine and told him the guy I wanted to sleep with, which happened to be a friend sense they were like 4. I made him call and explain to his friend what we wanted. He paced for over an hour trying to work up the courage to make that call.
Finally the night came and we meet up at a party for a few drinks before we went back to his friend’s house. Everything went as planed other than everyone being nervous. His friend and me had sex and he stood in the corner and watched. I loved the power I felt and was feeding of his humiliation. Later we went home and somehow my B/F believed because he had done all that; he was now going to get sex from me. I laughed. We had not had sex in the last year and I was not planing on it now. We did a lot of fighting and discussing but finally my B/F decided that this was not the life he wanted and so we finally broke up.
About 3 months after that I was talking to someone online in a chat room and he was telling me all about his fetish, that just happened to be cuckolding. He seemed kinda out there to me but I liked the main idea of the fetish. So I started doing some research on it. With in a few days I was very sure that cuckolding was totally what I was looking for. An so I have been pursing it ever sense.
